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Don't Let Your Ship Sink

mindset Sep 13, 2023
Don't Let Your Ship Sink | Arangio

You live in a world filled with challenges and obstacles. It's like sailing through turbulent waters, with waves of adversity crashing around you.

There are times when it feels like life is pushing you to the brink, testing your strength and resolve. But here's the thing: your ship doesn't have to sink.

You have the power to keep it afloat, no matter how stormy the seas may be.

Today, I want to talk to you about a profound concept that can change your life.

It's about the ability to weather life's storms without letting them sink your ship.

As the saying goes, "Ships don't sink because of the water around them; they sink because of the water that gets in them." 

In this lesson you'll discover this powerful idea and explore how you can use resilience to become virtually unsinkable.

Don't Let Your Ship Sink

You may find yourself in less-than-ideal situations, facing hardships and setbacks. Maybe you had a tough upbringing or have encountered numerous hurdles along your life's journey.

The world can be a harsh and unforgiving place at times. And it's easy to blame external circumstances for your problems. 

But here's the key to understanding resilience: you are not defeated by what goes on around you. You're defeated when you allow those external challenges to seep into your inner world, poisoning your thoughts, emotions, and actions.

The water that gets inside your ship represents the negativity, fear, and self-doubt that can erode your resilience.

So, how do you become one of those remarkable individuals who seem virtually unsinkable, who thrive despite adversity and chaos? It starts with a mindset shift and a commitment to protecting the integrity of your ship.

1. Embrace resilience as a mindset

Resilience isn't just a trait; it's a mindset, a way of thinking about and approaching life's challenges. It's the belief that you can overcome adversity, no matter how daunting it may seem. When you view setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning, you're on the path to building resilience.

Think of resilience as the sturdy hull of your ship. It's what keeps the water out, preventing it from seeping in and causing damage. Embrace a mindset of resilience, and you'll fortify your ship against the storms of life.

2. Learn to forgive

One of the most powerful ways to protect your ship from taking on water is by learning to forgive. Holding onto grudges and resentments is like drilling holes in your ship's hull. It weakens your defenses and allows negativity to infiltrate your inner world.

Forgiveness doesn't mean condoning or forgetting hurtful actions. It means releasing the emotional burden that comes with holding onto anger and resentment. When you forgive, you're not doing it for the person who wronged you; you're doing it for yourself, to keep your ship afloat.

3. Develop resilience strategies

Resilient individuals often have a toolbox of strategies to navigate life's challenges. These strategies serve as your life preservers, helping you stay afloat when the waters get rough.

Here are some effective resilience-building techniques:

  • Mindfulness and Meditation: Practicing mindfulness helps you stay present and calm, even in the face of adversity. Meditation can be a powerful tool for reducing stress and anxiety.
  • Positive Self-Talk: Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations. Remind yourself of your strengths, abilities, and past successes.
  • Seek Support: Don't be afraid to reach out to friends, family, or a therapist when you need help. Building a support network can be a lifeline during tough times.
  • Set Realistic Goals: Break down your challenges into smaller, manageable goals. Achieving these milestones can boost your confidence and sense of control.
  • Adaptability: Life rarely goes according to plan. Learn to adapt to changing circumstances and be flexible in your approach.

4. Cultivate gratitude

Gratitude is a powerful tool for maintaining resilience. When you focus on the positive aspects of your life, you create a protective barrier against negativity. Think of gratitude as your ship's armor, deflecting the waves of pessimism.

Start a gratitude journal and make it a daily practice to list things you're thankful for. It could be as simple as a beautiful sunset, a kind word from a friend, or a good cup of coffee. By acknowledging the good things in your life, you'll strengthen your resilience.

5. Stay committed to self-care

Taking care of yourself is essential for building and maintaining resilience. Just like a ship needs regular maintenance to stay seaworthy, you need self-care to stay resilient. This means getting enough rest, eating nutritious foods, and engaging in physical activity.

Exercise, resistance training in particular, is a fantastic way to boost your resilience. It releases endorphins, reduces stress, and increases your overall wellbeing. Find an activity you enjoy, whether it's hiking, swimming, yoga, or lifting weights, and make it a regular part of your routine.

6. Accept imperfection

Nobody is perfect, and expecting perfection from yourself or others is a surefire way to let water into your ship. Embrace the idea that making mistakes and facing challenges is a natural part of life. It's not about avoiding problems but about how you respond to them that matters.

When you accept imperfection, you release the pressure to be flawless. You become more adaptable and open to learning from your experiences. Imperfection is like the ballast that helps your ship stay balanced in turbulent waters.

7. Set boundaries

Protecting your ship also means setting boundaries. Know your limits and assertively communicate them to others. Boundaries are like your ship's protective barriers, preventing negativity and toxicity from infiltrating your life.

Setting boundaries can be challenging, especially if you're a people pleaser. But it's a crucial step in maintaining your mental and emotional wellbeing. It's about prioritizing your own needs and self-respect.

8. Focus on your purpose

Having a sense of purpose can be a guiding light in times of adversity. When you know why you're here and what you're working toward, it becomes easier to weather the storms. Your purpose acts as your ship's compass, helping you navigate through life's challenges.

If you're unsure about your purpose, take some time to reflect on what truly matters to you. What brings you joy and fulfillment? What do you want to achieve in this lifetime? Your purpose can provide you with the motivation and determination to keep moving forward, even when the seas are rough.

In conclusion, remember that ships don't sink because of the water around them; they sink because of the water that gets in them. Life will always present challenges, but you have the power to protect your inner world and remain virtually unsinkable. Embrace resilience as a mindset, learn to forgive, develop resilience strategies, cultivate gratitude, prioritize self-care, accept imperfection, set boundaries, and focus on your purpose.


You have within you the strength to keep your ship afloat, no matter how stormy the seas may be. Don't let external circumstances define your fate. Be the captain of your own ship, and navigate through life with resilience, grace, and unwavering determination. When you do, you'll find that not only can you survive the storms, but you can also thrive in their midst. So, my friends, if you're struggling a bit, remember this: don't let your ship sink. Stay resilient, and you'll sail through life's challenges with unwavering courage and strength.

To your success,

Coach Joe



Joseph Arangio helps 40+ men and women lose weight, gain strength, and slow aging. He's delivered over 100,000 transformation programs to satisfied clients around the globe. If you want to increase longevity with the best online age-management program, or you want to visit the best age-management program in the Lehigh Valley, you can take a free 14-day trial.

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